Backpacks, Bus Stops & Breakups: How to Co-Parent Through School Season
Backpacks. Bus routes. Binder shopping. Lunches. Google calendars.
Back-to-school season hits like a tidal wave—even in the best of circumstances. But when you’re also navigating the emotional and logistical complexities of divorce and co-parenting, it can feel like you’re barely staying afloat.
As a divorce coach, I work with many strong, capable women who are also juggling full-time jobs, solo parenting nights, and the endless demands of the school year. If this is you, know that you're not alone—and more importantly, it is possible to manage the chaos with more ease and less stress.
Here are six practical tips to help you not only survive the back-to-school madness, but build a more grounded, connected foundation for both you and your children:
1. Create a Shared School Calendar
Whether you and your ex are on good terms or barely communicating, a shared school calendar is essential. Use tools like Google Calendar, OurFamilyWizard, or Cozi to track:
School events
Pick-up/drop-off schedules
Parent-teacher conferences
After-school activities
This reduces confusion, prevents miscommunication, and helps both parents stay involved.
Pro tip: Color-code events so each parent can quickly see who’s responsible for what.
2. Streamline the Morning Routine
Mornings can be a battlefield. Create a simple visual checklist for your kids—think: “Brush Teeth, Get Dressed, Pack Backpack, Eat Breakfast.” It empowers them to be more independent (and gives you one less thing to shout about).
Pro tip: Pack lunches, check homework, and lay out clothes the night before—your morning self will thank you.
3. Have a Communication Plan With Your Co-Parent
Even if you're not best friends, keeping each other in the loop is key. Decide how you’ll share information—text, email, or a parenting app—and stick to it.
When tensions run high, frame all communication around one central priority: What’s best for the kids?
Pro tip: Keep messages brief, fact-based, and free from emotion. Think “business meeting,” not “therapy session.”
4. Prioritize Emotional Check-Ins
Your child may be navigating their own emotions about the divorce and the transition back to school. Create small windows for connection:
A 5-minute cuddle at bedtime
A note in their lunchbox
A weekly ice cream “check-in” date
These small gestures can make a big emotional impact.
5. Outsource What You Can
You don’t have to do it all. Use grocery delivery. Hire a laundry service for a month. Ask other parents for ride-shares. Lean on your community.
Remember: Don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good. Survival mode is real, and there’s no shame in getting help
6. Build in Time for You
This one is non-negotiable. You are the foundation of your family’s well-being. Protect your peace—whether it’s a quiet walk, a morning coffee alone, or a 10-minute meditation.
Pro tip: Block 30 minutes on your calendar each week just for yourself. Treat it like any other meeting—because it matters just as much
Final Thoughts
Back-to-school season in the middle of divorce isn’t easy—but with the right systems, support, and mindset, it is survivable. And even in the chaos, there are opportunities to build resilience, strengthen your bond with your kids, and create a new kind of stability.
You’ve got this—and I’m here to help if you need extra support.
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